Sexuality is fluid; it evolves and changes over time. But no one talks about how a few years down the road he shags a female or non-binary friend, and his vision of his own sexuality changes again. Your sexuality is part of what makes you unique, special, and worthy of being loved. More straight guys and women than you think watch gay porn. To her credit Lisa Diamond, the main researcher on the topic, backpedaled when later research showed evidence that men also experienced sexual fluidity. So neither label is a perfect solution for me.
Jessica. Age: 24.
Some guys start asking themselves that question after believing for a long time they were only into women.
Lillie. Age: 31.
Also, I was volunteering to do workshops in schools about homosexuality, and there was pressure from the organization to say that I was gay. This is why a lot of people will not just talk about sexual orientation, but also about romantic orientation. Although acceptance of homosexuality has improved in many places, most of us have grown up with our parents, peers, and media presenting heterosexuality as the only valid sexuality. Maybe they like the masculine vibe of the whole thing. It coincided with a period in my life where my attraction to women was more faint, because of my sexual fluidity and a lack of opportunities to get it on with women.